Carol reflects on bereavement support

I think my fear about helping people who had been recently bereaved when I started, was doubting my inability to say or do the right thing. I soon learned though, that provided I was natural, there is no need to rehearse what to say, the main thing is to be sincere and to be brief. When I found it hard to pick up the phone and make initial contact, I reminded myself that one day I could be bereaved too.

I learned that it helps the bereaved person to talk about their loved one, even if they are upset by doing so. They must never feel bad or embarrassed about being unable to control their emotions. Guilt, protest, yearning, anger and fear may be involved as part of the grieving process and need to be acknowledged and expressed; sometimes over and over.

It feels a privilege to form relationships with people when they are at their most vulnerable. Few conversations seem as meaningful, trusting and authentic.

I am reminded of how Christ’s disciples must have felt at the imminent death of Jesus and how He too experienced and overcame grief and death itself.

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Communion during this time

In these unprecedented times, we are working hard to find imaginative solutions in a landscape that has been rapidly changing. Sometimes we get things right, and sometimes we miss the mark. I apologise that this has been the case regarding communion.

For those of you who have received wafers in a parcel, we would ask that you either consume them, or put them somewhere safe to bring back once we are able to be together again.

We are going to be sending out a new order of service for use during this time as either a simple service of the word or, on occasion, to help us to share an Agape meal together.

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